Going out to bars more
frequently for 'meetings.'
Drinking habits change to include
greater and more frequent
consumption of alcohol.
Cheater stays out later and might
claim that he/she needed to sober
Says they're visiting a sick
Changes in appearance.
Cheater spends more time
Flesh marks, such as hickeys,
pinching bruises, scratch
Cheater asks more about your
schedule and the questioning
seems awkward or out of
Seems more rushed to get out at
Cheater is emotionally
More arguments, especially that
are initiated by petty or
Cheater is very defensive about
being questioned about
Cheater avoids talking about
infidelity or says they are more
Cheater asks about their own
performance in bed.
Cheater says 'I need more
Web-based e-mail with different
Very private with computer.
More time on the computer while
faithful heart is sleeping or in
Strange e-mails or e-mail
address. Other person might use
opposite sex name as a decoy to
trick faithful heart.
Pictures of people or person you
don't know in a hidden folder or
Cheater becomes unavailable at
Cheater is 'busier' or works
later or has different hours.
Unexplained payments on credit
Different gas stations on charge
statement than usual.
Uses cash more
Hang ups when faithful heart
answers the phone.
One ring only and then cheater
suddenly gets on computer (code
that there is an e-mail or chat
Cheater is often found standing
on the side of the house or some
other hidden area talking on the
Cheater leaves the area to take a
phone call -- even when its not
Certain phone number is itemized
every day and several times per
day on cell bill.
Itemization of cell phone bill is
Second unknown cell phone is
Possession of a phone calling
Caller ID/Address Book entry
shows a female or male name as
recent call, but the caller
sounded like the opposite sex of
the person in the recent
call/address book entry.
Car is found parked in a strange
Extra mileage on car.
Less mileage on car.
Suspicious items found in
Car is not at work when cheater
says they are at work.
Around the house
Less time spent for cleaning or
picking up around the house.
Perfume smell on clothes.
Cheater starts doing their own
Suspicious items found around
house or in clothing pockets.
SOME OF THESE SIGNS alone
or isolated can be innocent, but
if several of these signs are